For lesbian couples, or really anyone who’s up for it, strap-ons are simply one of those things that can take your sex life to the next level.
At least if you’re using the right one.
There’s a lot of strap-ons available these days, and although not all are aimed towards same-sex intercourse, today I am going to be focusing on strap-ons for lesbians.
If you’ve been having trouble finding the right strap-on for you, or you just don’t know where to start looking, this guide is here to help you out. We’re going to be showing you the very best strap ons for lesbians out there and talk about for whom each product is best suited for. We also go through a few tips and guidelines for how to get started with your strap-on for the very first time. So, let’s get started.
What Is A Strap-On?
A strap-on is short for strap-on dildo and, just like it sounds, is a dildo designed to be strapped on to penetrate your partner. Traditionally, it is worn with textile straps around the waist, hips and/or thighs, but today there are also plenty of “strapless” strap-ons available that attach in other more creative ways.
Strap-ons come in all different sizes and there is something available for every kind of couple. Besides lesbian couples, straight couples also use strap-ons to let the female peg the male, and males can also wear strap-ons to enhance the size, shape, and texture of their member or for double penetration.
Top Strap Ons For Same Sex Couples
This guide features the best strap ons for you and your partner to enjoy if you’re both female. The list features many amazing vibrating toys and toys designed to stimulate the female body for all lesbian couples out there.
Revolver Strapless Strap On
Our Top Pick
The Revolver strapless strap-on is designed for the lesbian couple with… well, almost everything in mind. The comfort and pleasure of both parties are being fully taken into account, and it doesn’t leave out either woman’s most sensitive part; the clitoris.
The Revolver is designed to work without all the gimmicks and without having the trouble of the straps. Instead of strapping it on, there is an insertable, curved part that is inserted into the vagina of the giver. As you use it, it sort of doubles as a dildo for the giver as well. This is what makes it an ideal toy for lesbian couples in particular but it could also be used for male-female couples in a pegging situation.
The toy is made up of smooth TPR-material and is flexible but firm. This strapless strap-on dildo is 6 inches long, while the handle inserted into the giver is 4 inches. The ergonomically designed toy is comfortable for both parts, fitting the natural curves of your body, and with a ribbed texture for added stimulation for the clitoris of the giver. The diameter, on the thickest part, is 1.5 inches.
The cherry on top is the bullet vibrator that is inserted into the base (where the two ends meet) of the toy. The vibrations deliver pleasure to both giver and receiver, and the one-button control makes it very easy to turn on and off. The vibrator runs on 3 LR44 batteries to deliver the powerful vibrations, and with your purchase you get 6 batteries.
You don’t have to worry if things get really wet and sloppy with the Revolver since it’s waterproof. If you want to bring it into the shower for some steamy action, that’s also an option!
On top of everything else, the price is practically unbeatable.
- Hands-free, strapless strap-on
- Stimulates both parties with vibrations
- Waterproof
- Ribbed clitoris part for the givers pleasure
- Battery-driven and batteries included
- Easy to handle
- Unbeatable price
- No vibration patterns to switch between
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Me2 Rumbler Strap On
For Relentless Vibrations
If you love vibrations (and who doesn’t?) the Me2 Rumbler Strap On might be the one for you. It boasts dual motors and deep vibrations that bring about orgasm after orgasm for both women. One of the motors is located on the ribbed, clitoral part of the giver’s end. The second motor is located further down and makes the shaft vibrate for internal stimulation of the receiver – this is seriously exciting stuff for both girls – trust me!
The vibrations are very deep and rumbling, but surprisingly quiet. Of course, they do make a bit of noise, but much less than one would expect considering the intensity and power of the motors.
The Me2 Rumbler fits most sizes, with flexible and adjustable straps. You should however be aware that the harness does take a fair amount of time and effort to put on, though. This makes the Me2 ideal for longer lovemaking sessions where time isn’t an issue, and putting on the strap-on can be a part of the foreplay. It’s less suitable for more spontaneous action purely due to the cumbersome nature of attaching it.
The Me2 is rechargeable, and a full charge will take 2 hours. The battery life also lasts up to 2 hours which is pretty impressive, although this does depend on how intense the vibration settings are that you use. To charge, you just plug it into any USB port. A charger comes with the purchase which is pretty handy.
The dildo part is made up of body-safe, silky silicone of the highest quality. The insertable length is a pleasurable 6.5 inches with a thickness of 1.5 inches in diameter at the widest point.
Both of you can enjoy it just how you like it because, not only does the toy have dual motors, but also independent controls for these motors. If one of you prefers faster vibrations while the other prefers it slower, you can simply adjust the toy to accommodate both of your wishes. No need to compromise on pleasure!
There are ten different settings for vibrations. They all vary in terms of pattern, speed and intensity, allowing you to pick what feels just right for you. A built-in memory chip also remembers the last-used settings, so when you turn it on next time, your favorite patterns and intensities will be the default setting.
Of course, the Me2 is waterproof to top things off. Level up the experience under a hot shower, or just enjoy the fact that cleaning it is easy-peasy. It’s also ideal for taking with you on a sexy weekend trip, thanks to the travel lock that ensures it won’t turn on by accident.
This is a great option that has a lot of pleasure to offer both of you and it won’t break the bank either.
- Intense vibrations and independent control of motors
- Reasonable price
- Lasts up to 2 hours on one charge
- Waterproof and easy to clean
- Has a travel lock
- Straps can be a bit complicated to put on
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Double Glass Dildo
For Cool Sensation Temperature Play
If you and your girl are already into temperature play, or want to experiment some more, this one’s for you. This double-sided dildo is entirely made of premium borosilicate glass, and is perfect for temperature play from 0 °C degrees all the way to 45 °C degrees. To play around with the temperature, just hold the glass dildo under warm or cold water for a couple of minutes until the toy has reached the desired temperature. Each side has a gentle curve and ends with a bulb, perfect for both anal and vaginal play.
Another upside to the glass material is that you can use it with any lube you want. You don’t have to worry about the toy being ruined by oil-based or silicone-based lube, a common problem with sex toys made of silicone.
The toy is elegant, simple, and aesthetically pleasing. Without straps or vibrations, it’s minimalistic and simple to use. The sexy Double Glass dildo will last you forever as it doesn’t deteriorate with time and is shatterproof.
Of course, it’s also very easy to clean a glass dildo. You don’t have to worry about water or soap damaging the toy, and the smooth, hard surface makes it easy to rinse off. Heck, you can even put it in the dishwasher! You can use any soap you have on hand as long as you rinse it off properly, so no chemicals will go into you the next time you use it.
You can also use it in the shower with the added bonus of being able to warm it up in the hot water from the shower for a longer session of temperature play. Once again, you can use it with silicone or oil lube, which is also ideal for shower sex that washes away your natural lubricant.
In testing, this was one of the most fun experiences we had and I’ll definitely be using it again outside the scope of this review!
- Perfect for temperature play
- Great price
- High quality materials
- Lasts forever
- Very easy to clean
- Not flexible
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Union Double Dildo
Great for bendable and flexible fun
The Union Double Dildo is a great toy on many levels, but what stands out the most is probably its bendable quality.
The dildo part of the toy has internal copper wire deep inside the thick silicone, and this allows you to bend and sort of shape the toy however you want. This is perfect as you can create the perfect curve for your specific needs and preferences. This goes for both the part you use to penetrate and the part you insert into the giver.
Not only does this accommodate you and your partner’s specific bodies, but it’s also perfect if you want to try out different positions and use the toy from different angles. The toy is very firm and offers good support, and in combination with the flexibility, it’s perfect for most positions.
The flexible nature of the Union really is a unique selling point and it is an innovation that is rarely done well – but Union have nailed it with this model.
It’s also available in 3 different sizes, so you can just choose whichever is right for you. There’s Small (1.06″ in diameter), Medium (1.38″ in diameter) and Large (1.61″ in diameter). You’ve also got three different color option; black, purple, and pink.
When Wet For Her created this toy, they had in mind to improve on their existing best-selling double dildo… and it’s fair to say that they did.
If you want some extra clitoral stimulation, you can also buy the WowHer add-on and use them together for an even more intense experience.
That’s not the only thing that makes the Wet For Her exclusive Union Double Dildo great. It also vibrates! The bullet vibrator comes with 5 different speeds to choose from and targets the clitoris of the giver to ensure both women have a heavenly experience. The vibrator is rechargeable, and easy to remove while you clean the toy.
Another great thing about the Union Double Dildo is that it’s fully compatible with a bunch of harnesses if you need some extra stability. This really is one of the best toys for female couples and although it is a little pricier than some of the other models I tested, it is well worth the money in my opinion.
- Available in 3 different sizes
- Comes with a 5-speed vibrator
- Bendable to your needs
- Hands-free and strap-free
- Compatible with different harnesses for extra support
- Rechargeable
- Relatively expensive
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Unrelenting G-Spot Strapless Strap On
Great for remote controlled fun
There is a lot to say about the Unrelenting G-Spot strapless strap-on. It’s one of the few remote-controlled strap-ons, and it has not one, not two, but three motors – which makes it one of the most unique offerings available.
Each of the powerful motors is strategically placed to ensure the pleasure of both the giver and receiver. One is placed inside the bulb that the giver wears, tapping inside to effectively stimulate the G spot. One is placed in the base, providing awesome clitoral stimulation that also leads out to the shaft. Finally, the last motor is located inside the end of the dildo, creating even more pleasurable sensations for the receiver.
Like any other Lesbian strapless strap-on, the Unrelenting is designed with a curved, shorter part to be inserted into the giver. The difference between this model and other toys is that this part is especially thick with a width of 1.7 inches, providing the giver with a very full feeling. Combine that with the relentless pulsations of the G-spot targeted motor, and we’ve got a toy that pleases like no other. The base also vibrates and stimulates the clitoris of the giver, making dual orgasms a real possibility.
The dildo part is a bit thinner, with 1.4 inches at its widest point, but longer with 5.4 inches of insertable length. It’s made up of firm but silky against-the-skin silicone, and the toy is textured in a few different places to provide even more stimulation with every thrust you make.
If you’re thinking all of this sounds intense, you’re absolutely right. If you feel it overwhelming, rest assured that with 15 modes, you can choose a gentler option in order as not to overstimulate or hurt you. But you daredevils out there can turn the vibrator on full speed!
You can easily control the modes wirelessly thanks to the small, easy-to-handle remote control that fits comfortably in your hand and this takes the fun levels up quite a few notches.
You might now be wondering about this toy’s weakness. Is it not waterproof? Maybe you can’t recharge it? Wrong on both accounts. It is fully waterproof and USB-rechargeable! For experienced users, this just might be the toy sent from heaven and I couldn’t find any fault with it whatsoever.
- Total of three motors
- 15 vibration modes
- Can be controlled through remote control
- Textured surface
- The giver is stimulated both internally and externally
- Bulbous, thick insertable part for the giver which feels great
- None
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Love Rider
Ideal for a workout
You’ve likely heard about training your kegel muscles more than once.You may not be planning on getting pregnant and may think it’s just not for you, but that’s not true at all. One of the greatest benefits of performing your kegels is stronger and easier orgasms, and that’s a benefit anyone who enjoys sex will love.
The Love Rider gives you one hell of a workout, while it also lets you feel extremely close to your partner. The toy is designed to be inserted into the giver, and a slight bulb gives the giver something to grip around. The giver, or dominant partner, will then have to use quite a bit of muscle strength to thrust and keep the toy in place.
The toy also has a bendable joint, which makes it great for use in many positions. Without a motor or anything electrical, it’s naturally waterproof. It can also be used in the shower, although the silicone toy unfortunately doesn’t allow for silicone-based or oil-based lube.
It is a bit expensive for the product; if it had a vibrator or motor, I’d find it forgivable, but as it is the price seems like it could have been a bit lower. Of course, you get quality, but the price is a bit high considering the simplicity of the toy.
- Adjustable joint
- Doubles as a great kegel workout
- Made up of premium medical-grade silicone
- Lets the giver feel the giver in an intimate way
- Not for beginners
- Somewhat expensive for what you get
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Double Dildo Vibrating Four
Great For Beginners
You’ve likely inserted your fingers inside your girl before. This Double Dildo Vibrating Four is shaped like two fingers, so you could say it lets you have sex with her and finger her at the same time. Doesn’t that sound great? You can even do it hands-free which is quite a feat.
The Double Dildo Vibrating Four is another strapless toy, which works by inserting the curved bulb into the giver, and, thanks to the pelvic muscles, it stays in place. As a beginner, you might want to start off by using it together with one of the compatible harnesses to increase comfort and make it easier to handle.
The Double Dildo vibrates, letting you both enjoy the sensations at 5 different speeds. The vibrator is pretty gentle but does a great job of adding extra sensations both to the giver’s clitoris and the receiver’s G-spot. The vibrator is USB rechargeable which is an added bonus as no-one wants to be using batteries these days.
Washing it is a quick and easy task; just remove the vibrator and wash the toy with warm water and a mild soap or toy cleaner.
- 5 different vibration speeds
- Can be used hands-free without straps
- Compatible with several harnesses
- USB-rechargeable
- None
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How To Use A Strap-On
It’s perfectly normal to be a little unsure about how you’re actually supposed to use the strap-on. I mean, you’ve never had a penis before, so how are you supposed to know how to handle it to bring you and your partner pleasure? Here are a few tips for you.
Try wearing the strap-on before use
The strap-on is an extension of yourself, but it sure is hard to feel that way if you’ve never used it before. That’s also why you shouldn’t just put it on and thrust it into your partner. That’s definitely not the way to go.
The first thing you may want to do is just use the toy around the house for day-to-day activities. You’ll get used to its presence, and it will feel much less alien when it’s actually time to put it in somebody. You may even start liking the feeling of the harness wrapped around your hips and the weight of the dildo.
You should absolutely also try masturbating with the strap on. This will help make the whole thing more sexual, and get you a lot more familiar with your new friend in an intimate way. Hump a few pillows; it will help you get a feel for thrusting.
Start small
Maybe you’ve fantasized about using a strap-on on your partner for a while, but you should still start small when you’re just starting out. Don’t buy a dragon dildo, and don’t expect to be fucking like a goddess on your first try.
Using a not-too-big silicone strap-on is a good start. You want to engage in plenty of foreplay and start by gently thrusting in easy positions like doggy-style or missionary. Missionary is an especially good idea, for reasons expanded on in the next point.
Communicate tons
It’s easy to thrust too hard or too far when you don’t actually have feeling in the dildo. Many penis-owners do it too, even though they can actually feel their penis! That’s why communication is so very important. Pay close attention to your partner, and make sure they feel comfortable telling you if it hurts. Start in the missionary position, so you’re face to face and can actually see the expressions and responses of your partner.
Use lube
Even if you’ve got natural lubrication going for you, a toy can make it drier, and that’s why you should use lube to make things glide better. When things are wetter and smoother, you’re also much less likely to hurt your partner.
Watch videos and read threads
Watching videos is both demystifying and educational. You might pick up on tricks others use to angle and control the toy, and it might just give you a better idea of what to expect it will look like when you try it with your own partner. You can even do this with your partner if you like which can all help to lead up to the fun.
Reading stories from Reddit or other forums is also an excellent way to make the whole thing feel less scary. You’ll realize that some women that now have amazing sex with strap-ons that you so desperately crave started off feeling just like you do right now. And if the entire thing turns into an epic fail, it will be easier to laugh about it if you know your experience is shared with many other women who went down the same road you did.
Practice aftercare
Most likely, you and your partner didn’t have the time to express how everything felt in the midst of the action, so it’s very important to ensure that both of you felt good about what happened. Aftercare, cuddling and talking about your experience is key to good sex and fixing things if something went wrong. Make sure to ask your partner if they enjoyed it rather than just assuming that they did, and even if they did, it doesn’t hurt to ask them if they’d like you to do anything differently.
Of course, you should also take this moment to communicate what you liked and what you didn’t like.
Let both parties try it on
There is something very valuable in being able to try being in both positions of the receiver and the giver. When you try out being the giver for once, you may notice how hard it is to keep a rhythm when the receiver is just laying there like a pancake. First time trying out being a receiver, you may realize that OUCH, thrusting harder does not make it feel better. Regardless, switching for once can be both hot and educational.
Don’t be scared to use your hands
Especially in the beginning, your silicone penis just won’t bend every direction you want it to. And that’s normal. Don’t be shy to use your hands to adjust or angle the strap-on. It’s also a good way to gently enter into your partner, and if you’re used to penetrating her with a handheld dildo or your fingers, you may find that it feels more natural.
Expect things to be awkward
Maybe the dildo will fall out, the harness will break, or you’ll accidentally enter the wrong hole. Even if none of that happens, you might find that the whole experience is awkward, and you feel silly trying to thrust. You should absolutely expect things to be awkward because they most likely will be in one way or another. It could even turn out it’s not your thing, and if so, that’s okay. You tried, and now you know.
Final Thoughts
For many female couples, using a strap-on changes the entire game, and for others, it’s just a nice cherry on top. Whichever you are, you should know that choosing the right product for you is step one of getting a positive experience. If you choose a cheap garbage strap-on, unsurprisingly, it might not feel or work so great. If you choose something that just does not fit your vibe or feel comfortable, that’s not going to result in a steamy experience either.
Maybe you’ve already tried using a strap-on a few times, and you’re now looking for your next new favorite, and that’s great. In which case, you’ll probably know more about what you’re looking for, and hopefully, this list has provided you with some alternatives you dig. A glass dildo or relentlessly vibrating strap-on are good options for you.
If you’re newer to strap-ons, you might want to choose a bit more cautiously. My recommendations would be one of two. The first good beginner-friendly option is the Union Double Dildo, for its shapeable qualities, different size options, and the fact that it’s compatible with a variety of harnesses.
Beginners may also want to consider the original Double Dildo Vibrating Four, which is available in small sizes and is also compatible with several harnesses. It’s also a tad cheaper, but of equally good quality.
That’s all I’ve got for you today! I hope that this guide has been helpful, whether you’re looking for the next dildo to level up your game or are just trying out the sport. Good luck!